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2011-02-26T14:20:00.000-08:00

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2010-12-14T11:08:00.000-08:00

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2010-10-24T10:35:00.000-07:00

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2010-09-27T12:14:00.000-07:00

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'Summer Classes With Dance Exotic'

2010-08-27T11:36:00.000-07:00

'Summer Classes With Dance Exotic'

"A Hot Mess"

2010-08-18T12:18:00.000-07:00

Pole Dance-Off at the King King in Hollywood.
I've been dying to write my thoughts and experience about this event. Sherry and I participated in a "friendly" pole dance competition amongst the top LA pole dance studios. Going in we thought it would just be a fun experience to get to know some of the other girls in the pole dance community. They advertised it that way and I thought what the hell I'll give it a shot. I like to say I kinda hide in the shadows and I never put myself out there as a competitor. Our performance here showed why. I really didn't want to participate but it was important to Sherry and we thought it would be a great time to let everyone know who we are. Big mistake. Being the Scorpio that I am, I'm still a little butt-hurt about this whole thing. Sherry and I worked on our routine for two weeks. First let me say I don't perform best with a routine. But with our choice in music being "South of Heaven" from Slayer, I thought it would be totally rad especially going against some of the other musical choices. So I'm going to share about my experience in a little more detail. When we got there I felt like I was in the locker room for the Laker Girls. Everyone was stretching and so serious. Feathers puffed up like a bunch of dudes, Yoga mats everywhere, snack bags and bananas were being munched on and all I wanted to know was when the bar was opening up. I was shocked to over hear all of the shit talking from some of the other performers about the other studios. Then I hear one of the performers fall off the pole and some of the girls were laughing. I wanted to punch them in the face! I just continued to roam and feel out the vibe. I had a bad feeling from the get go and it proved to be the case. I couldn't hang out there until show time so I wandered next door to the pizza place and had a couple beers. When I got back everyone was cramming into the dressing room getting ready for show time. A dressing room that holds maybe 5-6 people comfortably it was stuffed with about 20 performers and all of their shit. I had my stuff in one bag and locked it up and tried to put it out of the way out of respect. That's the stripper in me. I noticed the attitude first in the room. Everyone was rude and inconsiderate of each others space. I remained polite and said excuse me but the ladies were non responsive. Some of the ladies I look up too as professional pole dancers really put a sour taste in my mouth with their rudeness. So the "friendly" atmosphere that was encouraged quickly became a lion's den. Nothing personal just made me realize how much I didn't belong there. I just wanted to get this over with and get the fuck out. I didn't care about winning, it was a benefit show and that's all that mattered. Just before we were going up I got shoved out of the way and ended up almost falling down by the announcer and the two stage hands as I was trying to get to the stage. That was piss off number one! Two XStages were provided by another studio. One stage was the newer model and the one I performed on was the older model. The older model has screw together poles. Everyone else seemed to tear it up ok, so I thought I'd be fine. But come to find out later the girl that fell off the pole during rehearsal fell off on the stage I performed on. Hmmm. So here we are hitting the intro of our Slayer song and all you could here were crickets in the audience and our handful of friends screaming their lungs out. I could tell the audience was only there to cheer on their team and nobody else. Piss off number two. About a minute in I noticed my pole was coming apart and it was starting to spin. Not a big deal I can do spinning pole. What I didn't expect was the top piece to start to come a part, which fucked up my timing and Sherry didn't know what was happening. She panicked and forgot the entire routine. I had to improvise, which I'm good at but at the same time I didn't want to have to prove anything to these people and my safety was my number once concern. Oh and later I notice two chunks of flesh missing from my hand. Broken threads maybe? That's the only thing that could have done that. Thanks for the scars! Anyway, not in my groove at all, no emotional connection and fuckin pissed off I managed to save myself and finish the set with a fake smile while all I wanted to do was to stick my middle finger up at the whole thing. After our set was over I got off the stage and was so angry I just told everyone to watch out for that pole it's broken. Everyone looked at me like I was fucking insane, I grabbed my shit and pushed my way to the bathroom so I could change and get the fuck out of there. After the drama of me explaining what happened, I went outside to talk to my REAL friends. Including the girls from XPole, who were extremely concerned and who are dear friends of mine. I just wanted to get out of there. There were so many rude people I wanted to scream. My friends agreed about the vibe there and they didn't want to stick around either. Sherry thought I was mad at her but I wasn't at all. It just sealed the deal that I will never compete in such an environment like that ever again. One of the girls in charge of the show was trying to get us to do a "do over". I said thanks but no thanks, I'd like to keep what little dignity and self respect I have left. I felt that the audience was a little racist in many different ways. Two white girls trying to throw down to metal with tattoos and racy outfits. All we got were dirty looks. I totally felt everyones energy, it was so fucked! I've always been different when it comes to doing things "mainstream". I will always be true to my art regardless and everyone else can suck a dick. The audience didn't deserve a good performance from us and I wasn't about to share my true passion for what I love. The friends and loyal students that were there know and have experienced my love for dance in a much more supportive element and I'm grateful to have them in my life. You know who you are and you are the reason why I continue to do what I do. I'm a girl that stays true to her roots as a stripper and I despise the attitude that comes with competitive pole dancing. I've only met a couple real deals in this pole world and that's why they remain the best of the best. I don't want to be the best I just want to love what I do. That's something that can never be taken away from me. But it will always be something I can give away to the ones who desire it. And one final opinion on pole dancing in the Olympics, Good Fucking Luck! Think about where it originated from. I don't care about how much fucking gymnastics you've taken or about how much training you've had, bottom line people will always see pole dancing as an exotic art and will always link it to strip clubs. So good luck trying to convince our conservative society who actually watch, support, and fund the Olympic sports. Will you then know what real competition is all about.

To read more on another article posted go here.

http://themusicswamp.com/2010/08/polestars-at-the-king-king-5/

To see our "Redo" video of our Slayer routine that we put together at the studio visit my Facebook profile and search under my friends list to Pole Rejects.

Music

2010-06-23T18:13:00.000-07:00

The fuel for my dance. Music expresses so many emotions for me. It can change my mood, my way of thinking and it can send a message. Some of the songs I like to dance to.

She's Got Balls - AC/DC
Zombie Dance - Alice Cooper
Killer - Alice Cooper
Is it my body? Alice Cooper
Ten Seconds to Love - Motley Crue
Mississippi Queen - Mountain
Soulshine - The Allman Brothers Band
Voodoo Idol - The Cramps
Mr. Lovegrove - Dead Can Dance
No Ordinary Love - Deftones
Un World Mysteriouse - Dimitri From Paris
Slow Ride - Foghat
Darling Nicki - Foo Fighters
Hey Mister I can boogie - Goldfrapp
Ted, Just Admit It...- Jane's Addiction
Kozmic Blues - Janis Joplin
Fetish - Joan Jett
Down In the Hole - John Campbell
Love Bites - Judas Priest
Heartbeats - The Knife
Beg for Me - Korn
Since I've Been Loving You - Led Zeppelin
Dazed and Confused - Led Zeppelin
I Can't Quit You Baby - Led Zeppelin
The Most Wonderful Girl - Lords of Acid
So Alive - Love and Rockets
Wasted - Mazzy Star
Rock Candy - Montrose
French Fries With Pepper - Morphine
Empty Box - Morphine
More - Peaches
Wish You Were Here - Pink Floyd
Where Is My Mind? - Pixies
Hey - Pixies
Blue Veins - Raconteurs
Optimistic - Radiohead
Loaded Gun - The Reverend Horton Heat
Bridge of Sighs - Robin Trower
My Superman - Santigold
Starstruck - Santigold
Animal Magnetism - Scorpions
Red Light - Siouxsie & the Banshees
Baby It's You - Smith
Underwater Love - Smoke City
Bloodsport - Sneaker Pimps
Slaves and Bulldozers - Soundgarden
G Minus - Vanaprasta
Oh! Sweet Nuthin' - The Velvet Underground
Blood, Milk and Sky - White Zombie
Sometimes I - The Plasmatics
Midnight Snack - The Donnas
If you wear that velvet dress - U2
Killing Time - Siouxsie/The Creatures

Flyin Solo

2010-06-23T16:32:00.000-07:00

Being newly single has not changed me but has allowed me to be myself. I've always found it difficult to be a stripper and be in a relationship. I'm layin low and I totally have no desire to date anyone where I work. For the first time in my life I'm feeling like I'm right where I'm supposed to be. I get lonely and miss the intimacy of being with a partner but I'm learning that it's ok. I have a lot to be thankful for and I'm so grateful for the friends I have in my life right now. Without them or without my business I would be totally lost and miserable. I was in that place a year ago and I never want to be there again. A lot of people think strippers are lost souls, some are but I'm not lost. I'm on a journey of learning and discovery. All I desire is to be able to walk through this life with the ones I love and the ones that will allow me to love them. I don't act out like I used too. I love what I do and for an old cat like me, I think I've still got it and them some. If I can shine some light in someones dark space then it's all worth it. I want to set an example for women, strippers or non strippers, I've been to those dark places and I understand. Women that come into the clubs are from all walks of life and I don't pass judgment on anyone. I've changed my way of thinking and how I see myself. I am constantly reminded of where I came from and I'm very humble right now. I chose to leave my home, marriage, lifestyle and now I have to start all over again all because I was living with someone who I couldn't connect with. This transition is a huge wake up call for me. I had a wonderful man in my life that was amazing for so many reasons. I didn't want to live in a lie or hide who I am. He was embarrassed by me. I wasn't proper enough for him. At least I was pretty enough but I feel that's it. I have the mouth of a sailor and I tell it like it is. I know I was a great wife but I have a lot to learn. One day I'll find someone that can be my equal and that wants to be a part of my life. I hope one day he finds the same. I've always scared men. Once they get to know me and my adventures things change. I see humor in certain situations because that's how I learn. People are shocked but sometimes that's my defense. I like to see how much they can handle. I haven't harmed anyone or myself in the process, not that I know of and the ones I have, I've made amends. I've just had a real good time doing what I love. Guys just get a little intimidated or insecure with how confident I feel about myself. From time to time I have my days but who doesn't? I hope to find someone one day that accepts me for who I am and that will take the time to get to know me. The lesson learned recently for me is that if people love me then they will make time in their life to be with me as a friend or partner. I'm very particular, much more selective than I used to be. I'll be everyone's friend but at the end of the day I enjoy being with someone who I can really laugh and love with. Laughter is the way I deal with the seriousness of life. I don't need to be rescued this time. I'm not ashamed of who I am or where I came from or even the choices I've made for myself.

In the mean time the loneliness comes in waves but I just continue to bond with my ladies and they walk me through it with love and support. Those ladies know who you are ;)

Why I Dance

2010-02-17T00:15:00.000-08:00

Dancing has always been a part of my life. I would feel helpless if I could not dance. For me its a connection. I am real sometimes raw and aggressive. I always find that I can release whatever energy that may be flowing through my being. Sometimes I don't know what I'm feeling until I let go. I have discovered so many things about myself through movement. When I was young I always wanted to be a Broadway dancer or a Las Vegas Showgirl. I was fascinated by the costumes, lights and open space to move about. To fantasize about these things would help me escape the reality of a difficult and abusive relationship I had with my parents. I knew there was something out there for me but because of the dysfunction of my family life I never thought I was good enough, tall enough or pretty enough to become a professional dancer. If I had stronger role models in my life at that time I know I could have made it happen. When I was a teenager I used to pretend I was in a rock and roll music video and rehearse routines at my grandmothers house in the back yard. I also fantasized about being watched by the band and that they would discover me and rescue me. I'd pretend Vince Neil or Steven Tyler were watching me audition, fall in love with me and take me around the world. I wanted the attention so bad but wasn't old enough to audition for any music videos. Went to a lot of concerts though. I always lied when it came to going out to the Hollywood clubs. I was 15 and looked 22. Still searching for that connection I was able to meet some friends in my late teens early twenties and we would go to these sober dances. These dances were for all ages so it was perfect for me. We danced until we couldn't stand on our feet. The music was always cool and I always felt emotion when I was on the dance floor. I would get a natural high just from dancing. I would always practice new moves in the mirror and wanted them to look and feel sexy. Well it worked. I got a lot of attention and a lot of dates. Dancing back then was a bit different than how it is now. We didn't simulate fucking while we danced but there was a lot of hip grinding, hair flipping and rocking out. As I got older and experienced life a bit while being away from my dysfunctional family, is when I started to become more creative. My self esteem was always low but I eventually grew out of that. One day I met this chick in a bathroom at a nightclub. What she said changed my life forever. She was a tall redhead about 30, smokin hot with an attitude to match her fiery hair. I was complaining about something and she turned to me and said "Honey, if you can't beat em, join em"! Now that I think about it I think she was a he... oh well I couldn't tell back then. Something so simple and witty was so right on. For some reason I felt an instant relief. Those words of wisdom eased my soul and helped me to feel less competitive around other women. Which later on helped me deal with my self esteem issue. So thanx to the hot redhead I met at Sinamatic back in the 90's. Sinamatic and Club Fuck were the edgiest clubs in Hollywood at the time.
I experimented with the underground fetish scene and met some pretty amazing people. That's how I started go-go dancing at the clubs. What a thrill! Wigs, make-up, outfits, high heels I was in heaven.
Go-go dancing is not easy. I had to dance my ass off for like three hours straight with no break. That's like running on a treadmill for three hours. Glad I did that when I was young. But that's how it all started for me. I wouldn't change a thing. All of my experiences have led me here and have helped me through some very tough times. When I dance I like to imagine my body as the instruments that are playing. My hips become drums, my body becomes a guitar, my legs become a saxophone my head tosses to the beat my arms extend the keyboards. If I can feel the music I can feel my dance. Every song becomes an emotion. When I pole dance I can express my current mood. I never rehearse my pole dancing I adjust my moves to act out the song. Stripping was the best thing that ever happened to me. I am not ashamed of who I've become.

Pole Dance Classroom Etiquette

2010-01-18T20:03:00.000-08:00

This is something I've been wanting to touch on for a while. To start I am not pointing any fingers at anyone, this is just something I've been wanting to share. I have to say that almost every class of mine has perfect students. But there are a few things to consider when taking a class. Know matter what type of class it is. Just because it's pole dancing, it should still receive the same amount of respect as any other class. First, when showing interest in a class contact the instructor if you are unable to attend. Other people could be waiting for your spot. Turn off your cell phones. Don't be obnoxious and disruptive. Be considerate of others at all times. Show up on time. Never show up 20 minutes late and expect to get in the class, it's disruptive, inconsiderate and can make other people uncomfortable. Not to mention it frazzles the instructor who's trying not to single you out when showing up late and trying to keep the flow of the class. Participate in the activity. If you don't feel like going to class don't go. My biggest pet peeve, refrain from bragging about other studios or lessons you may have taken in the past. For example "So and So calls that the blah blah spin" or "So and So does it this way and that's the right way". For one it's disrespectful and rude. Not just to the students that haven't taken "So and So's" class but to the instructor. There is no patent on names for any of the pole dancing moves out there. There is no legal or official structure of how a pole class should be taught. Pole dancing is free form art and will always be that way with individual instructors and individual styles. What I say is, try and challenge yourself to do something different. Something that's familiar and comfortable restricts us from growing. If you like the way someone teaches, stay with them because you may not be ready for the next challenge and that's ok. Keep an open mind. Whatever you do always be respectful because everyone can pick up on negative energy. Students come to class to shake off the day, destress and to feel connected. If your having a bad day maybe you shouldn't come to class. We all have bad day's but no reason to make everyone else have one. I've been teaching for several years now and I have had a few challenges as a teacher. I do the best that I can with the knowledge and skills I've gathered over the many years of my dancing and life experiences. I always try to accommodate and make everyone feel important. Please be kind to all sisters we come from all walks of life but share one thing in common, the desire to learn something new.

Different Styles of Pole Dancing

2010-01-18T19:33:00.000-08:00

Wow, I can't believe how much pole dancing has touched so many people. Here are my thoughts for beginners wondering if they should do it. Yes! Try it at least once. There are so many classes out there where you can take a cheap intro class and see if you like the style of the instructor. Just remember there is no right or wrong way to dance exotic. Be respectful when visiting studios with they're own language. There are many styles of pole dancing. I teach the exotic style, meaning I focus on sensual dance movement and moves that I used to do as a stripper. That's right...that's how this whole thing started. One of my favorite gals Fawnia Monday, launched the movement back in the late 90's with her informative DVD and she has a unique style. She used to be a stripper, showgirl, performer, whatever you want to call it and shes always been an active fitness instructor and competitor. S Factor did not invent pole dancing. But what S Factor did was plant the seed for mom's and regular gals that had no plans for the stage. Awesome! You have to find a studio or instructor with some experience when shopping for classes. I live in Los Angeles so there are a variety of choices and most focus on the fitness part of pole dancing. That's great but my style is a bit different I let that sneak up on ya. Figure out what your goals are. How do you want to use your skills? Stage? Boyfriend? Getting in shape? Just for yourself? The right classes are out there. Like I said, try an intro class or private lesson first to see if you like it. Avoid contracts and people trying to hook you in for their profit. Pole dancing is an art form that is unique in it's desire for self expression not cookie cutter profit making.
If your interested in learning by DVD I highly recommend Jamilla Deville's series visit www.TheArtofPole.com. The most professional put together series out there that you can actually use.Way to go Jamilla!

Private Lesson

2010-01-02T18:57:00.000-08:00

I love doing private lessons. They really help me learn about my teaching and I always learn something from them. I love how each and every girl has a unique style even if they don't know it yet. What's more rewarding is when they get excited that they are going to try to do something new on stage. I wish I could go see every single dancer dance so I can show my support. My heart is with them always just not my pocket book. haha. I don't do private lessons very often but today I had a huge flashback! I did a private lesson for a girl who is a current dancer at a local strip club and it was like looking in the mirror. It was awesome! I felt like I took a trip back to my early days. Her energy was so familiar I almost wanted to go work with her at the club. I loved her enthusiasm and her rebel attitude. It was such a good workout we were both sweating. I was able to see her progress from when she first started dancing to now. Today was the first day I've worked with her, everything else she has done on her own which is how I learned. We didn't have classes. Most girls didn't want to give up their secrets in fear of competition. Totally understand that. I learned by watching and risking. I only had time to practice when it was slow at the club or if the guys weren't tipping. I got the hang of it quickly. Well I look forward to class tomorrow, a level one class with newbies and then a level 2-3 for my int-ad beginners. Lots of fun.
Thanks for everyone's support. xoxo

Motivation

2010-01-01T11:40:00.000-08:00

If there is one thing that motivates me in my day it's dance. I think about it all the time. How I can come up with new costumes or new moves. I love it when I have a dream of some crazy new pole trick and get so excited about how cool it is then I wake up. I realize it's humanly (at least for me) impossible for that trick to happen. But a girl can dream right? My motivation for teaching comes from my students. It's a true sisterhood. I enjoy each and every class. I love to laugh while learning, why should it be so serious anyway? I hear horror stories from students that come to me from other studios and it makes me angry. I want to create an experience for my girls as if they are coming over to my place to have some fun pole dancing time. Less tension more fun! It's kind of like meditation for me. I like being in that place where nothing matters except what we are doing in class. When I'm freestyling I go deep into my emotions and play. It's like splashing water or rolling around in something soft. These are some of the things I try to get my girls to tap into. It's not about tricks for me it's about expression of emotion. Tricks are rad but where is the connection. What are you connecting too and why? How does it make you feel when you accomplish an extreme trick? I know how it makes me feel, I want to shout out to the world "Hey, I'm a badass"! I love that part. But not all the time.
I hope here my students can give some feedback about their pole dancing experience and I want to know what motivates you.

Pole Dancing in Los Angeles

2009-12-31T21:48:00.000-08:00

I have been dancing in just about every strip club in Los Angeles over the past 14 years. I've seen it change so much but it's really still the same game. My recent shifts at Jumbo's in Hollywood was by far the most fun. I love the rawness of the club. I'm a rock-n-roll kind of girl so dancing to The Stones or Led Zeppelin was a treat. I can really find my groove when the music is right. The girls there are hard core but super cool, stage was awesome and I can't wait to go back. Part time of course as I want to stay focused on my classes. I don't care for the totally nude clubs I enjoy a more relaxed environment with a little dirt. I think that for me, as an adult performer I continue to learn more about myself and I embrace the changes that come from those experiences. I see what I don't want and what is appealing then I move on. Not like the old days. I wasn't always the bubbly Kitty my students know of now. I'll get into that another time, lets just say I'm not bitter anymore. Ha! My true passion is sharing my skill with other women. I'd like to think my style of teaching is a bit different than what's out there in the new pole dance world but I hope everyone is adding their own spice. I am a bit annoyed by some schools and instructors that striped the strip club style and turned their nose up in disgust. I do see different views and you know, I just don't like some of them. So what! Big deal! Blah Blah Blah, right? Well that's why I started this blog, to help me help others make up their own mind about this pole dancing movement and maybe learn a little somethin. So for now it's New Years Eve and I'm going to pop open a bottle of wine, stay in and take a hot bath while I exhale 2009.
See ya next year!
xo